Thursday, January 6, 2011

A change in perspective

Well, it has been almost a year since my last post. A co-worker asked me why I had given up on my blog the other day and that question kind of hit me. Like most guys when faced with a difficult decision, I simply shrugged my shoulders and said "ehh whatever" and walked away. But that question continued to nag me for the last few days. Is it ADD? Do I get bored that easily? Is it something in me where I simply refuse to finish things? Last night, feeling a little sorry for myself I couldn't sleep and thought on this issue some more. The answer hit me like a ton of bricks...

I've got nothing to complain about anymore. The bitterness is gone.

To explain, in March of last year, I decided to man up and tell Lucifera I was leaving and that we were getting a divorce. I moved out about a week later and filed the divorce complaint shortly thereafter. In what I think was an effort to reel me back in, she agreed to just about all of my terms and signed off on the divorce shortly thereafter, all that need happen was for me to go to court and finalize it all, only I waited. Not because I was upset about the divorce or was having second thoughts mind you, my motives were much more mercenary than that. Her company paid for my health insurance.

So there I was living the single life, free and easy. For about two months... Then enter joy. I was not looking for her, was not expecting her, and to tell the truth, I thought I was simply going on a motorcycle ride. However, June 5, 2010 was a ride that I will never forget. That day, I met* the love of my life, my soul mate, the woman I will spend the rest of my life with. Everything changed that day. My outlook on life has changed, my personality is back to where it was years ago. I was, essentially reborn (in more ways than one we will discuss that more later).

So now, in general, I walk around with a big smile on my face. The change in me is evident to all who know me. I am happy again. So to anyone who enjoyed the blog before, I say, sorry, the bitterness is gone. But do stick around, I think I may still be able to entertain and maybe even inform.

By the way, I think it is important for us to remember our past so, I think the name of the blog, although no longer appropriate in any way, will remain.


* I say met even though we actually knew of each other for about 15 years (since high school) although never really interacted in any fashion.